Guest Article : Tips to Posting Personals
Want to have more fun in your online dating experience? Post
your own personal ad! Posting your own ad can be quite an
ego booster. Just wait until you open your mailbox to find
all the responses. It is a blast! So put on your creativity
hat and read these ideas to get your words flowing.
Idea #1 - Be Honest
You know the old adage “the truth always comes out”.
Any relationship that is going to be worth starting should
begin with honesty. Don’t ruin what could turn out to
be an incredible relationship or friendship by starting it
out with lies. If you try to hide the fact that your are not
perfect, you may miss out on a person that can love you specifically
for your imperfections.
Maybe you are a single parent, be up front about it. Your
kids are a treasure, not something to hide. You don’t
want to start dating someone who has no intention of having
kids, so save yourself the heartbreak and be honest about
it from the beginning. You will have a better chance at finding
a person out there that will love you for the “package
deal” you come with.
If you are a little overweight, or not in the best shape
of your life… who cares! Just don’t try to say
you are something you are not. When you finally go to meet
this person, they are going to find out anyway. Why set yourself
up with a person who might be disappointed when you could
be spending your time talking to someone who will love you
for every inch of who you are?
Do you know what type of person you are looking for? Tell
them! Don’t waste your time with people who don’t
even come close to fitting that mold. If you are looking for
someone just to have a sexual relationship with, save the
wrong person from the possible heartache by being up front
about that too.
Idea #2 - Create a Standout Headline
You need to be sure you shine above the rest so the right
person is more likely to check out your profile. With an eye-grabbing
headline, you can bring more attention to yourself. Just writing
“SWF, 33, lonely” won’t help you. There
are plenty of those out there.
Start by browsing other ads. See what catches your eye. Does
it make you laugh? Is it direct? Whatever seems to grab you,
use that idea. Just don’t copy it word for word. You
want yours to be original.
Be sure to know the rules of the service you are using. If
you want to write a racy headline, be sure it is acceptable
with the service you are subscribing to. Some like Altmatch
or Intimate Adults might be fine with it. While others such
as eHarmony and One and Only may not. Remember, if you write
a racy headline, the people who will come to you will be looking
for that type of relationship. If you want something of more
substance, keep it clean. However, above all else….make
it funny! Nothing seems to keep someone’s attention
like laughter.
Idea #3 – Be Optimistic
Let your light and excitement for life shine through in your
writing. Negativity is for your therapist, not your prospective
lover. Unless you want people to send you referrals to a mental
health clinic, don’t let this be a nag session. Smiles
are contagious. Let yours show through your words. Remember
that confidence without arrogance is one of the sexiest traits
a person can possess.
Idea #4 – Be Specific
You need to know who you are and who you want to find before
you start writing. Then, when you begin, be sure you are specific
in your profile. This will help you attract the right kind
of people. If you don’t want kids, tell them. That way
a single parent does not waste their time and yours writing
to you. If you love to travel let them know so a person who
is up to a lot of adventure knows to come your way. Whatever
it is…just spell it out clearly.
Idea #5 – Check for Errors!
Check your of spelling. If you write a personal filled with
grammar and/or spelling mistakes it is like showing up for
a date dirty, unshaven and in yesterday’s clothes. Someone
who puts their best in their personal ad will be more likely
to put their best in their relationship. Like in any other
situation, if you put your best foot forward, you are more
likely to end up with good results.
Idea #6 – Pick a Flattering Photo!
In the spirit of putting your best foot forward, pick a flattering
picture of yourself to post with your ad. You can take most
regular photos to Kinko’s or camera stores and have
them digitized for computer use. Some of these online dating
services will even let you send them a regular photo by “snail
mail” and they will scan it to post for you. Just don’t
throw one up there that was taken with your web cam. Those
really are never flattering.
Idea #7 – Get Ideas From Friends and/or Family
Have a friend or loved one write something about you to get
you started. Sometimes seeing ourselves through someone else’s
eyes can be very enlightening. In fact, a female friend of
my husband’s wrote the ad that I responded to. Gotta
say…it worked!
Idea #8 – BE HONEST!!!
Okay, so I really had only 7 ideas, but wanted to repeat
this one anyway. BE HONEST!!!! It will get you better results
in the long run.
About the Author
Jennifer Lester is an online dating expert who offers her
advice and guidance through the world of online dating at
her website: http://www.lovepersonally.com – The tour
guide to your online dating experience.
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