Guest Article : 6 Simple Rules for Internet Dating
Take your time getting to know someone before you have your
first meeting.
Taking time getting to know someone, first through emails
then on the phone, can give you a true feel for how they really
are. It also gives you a chance to listen for the signs that
this person is not being honest with you. Pay attention! Do
they stick with the same story or does it seem to change a
lot? Is there something they seem apprehensive to talk about
it? If so, try to find out why. On the positive side, taking
time to get to know them also gives you a chance to build
the foundation of a strong relationship, so don’t skip
over this important step!
Don’t give out personal information that can
be traced to your home or your work.
The last thing you want is to have someone that you don’t
end up feeling comfortable with coming to your door at home
or at work. That can only spell trouble. (Can you say “stalker”?)
This is information that should be a privilege given only
after you have met at least once, if not more. A cell phone
or pager can always be used to be for contact, other than
e-mail, with someone. These are harder to trace back to home.
Just be sure that if you are returning a call, and want the
number to stay anonymous, that you have your home number blocked.
Check with your phone company to see how to do this.
Make sure you are meeting at a familiar location.
Go where you know! You need to be somewhere that you feel
safe and you know the area. That gives you more control. I
even made sure a friend or family member was there to keep
an eye on me at first. It made me feel as if there was a guardian
angel watching over me.
Take your own car, or transportation.
First of all, in the spirit of not letting someone know where
you live right away, you obviously don’t want to let
them come pick you up at home (no matter how old fashioned
you might be). This is something that can come at a later
date when you are sure you want them to see your home. When
you take your own car, you have more control of when you leave
and where you go. If you don’t like someone or somehow
don’t feel comfortable, you can leave!
Be certain to give a close friend or family member
all the details.
By this I mean ALL the details. They should know your plans
for the evening and when you expect to be home. You should
also be sure to give them all the information on the identity
of your date and their picture. If your plans change and you
are going to be home later, just give them a call. Sure, this
sounds like you are back home with your Mother again, but
at least your safe. It really can’t hurt!
Listen to yourself!!!
This one can’t be stressed enough. We are all equipped
with some sense of intuition. Whether it is faint or screaming
in your ear. You should listen to what your senses are trying
to tell you. Don't try to ignore or rationalize your fears.
It is a simple golden rule for life: “If you don’t
feel safe, you probably aren’t!” Don’t ignore
this! If at any time you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, end
the date immediately. It is better to be wrong than be harmed.
The above are the rules that I used to guide me during my
journey through online dating. I found them very successful.
In fact, because I was able to get to know my dates before
we met, I felt safer than on so-called "traditional"
first dates. You just don't get that opportunity when you
meet someone at a bar, club, coffee shop or by any other means.
Keep in mind, these rules are only my suggestions. Your safety
is truly up to you. Use your common sense. Make up your own
rules. Whatever you do, stay safe and play safe and you will
have a lot more fun!!
About the Author
Jennifer Lester is an online dating expert who offers her
advice and guidance through the world of online dating at
her web site: http://www.lovepersonally.com – The tour
guide for your online dating experience
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